Cliques. Can't live with 'em. Can't live without 'em.

That statement is so true.  We are told by Paul in his letters to have those that we confess to and that hold us accountable in our Christian walks.  We need to be with these people everyday to share our lives with, cheer us up when we need it, and just fill the basic human need for company.  But when is it too much?

The author of Hebrews tells us that we should "see to it that no one misses the grace of God" (Heb. 12:15).  So we automatically think, "Well, I'm going on a mission trip to Mexico next summer so check that off the To-Do list."
Seriously? Totally taken out of context. It clearly says no one.
We think (without even knowing we think it) that the Christian people that surround us every day don't need to see the grace of God from us.

Girl's have the innate need to feel accepted and wanted by their peers.  Also, we have this way of over-analyzing every single detail about every single situation that happens with every single conversation and event that involves others.  These two characteristics combined can be detrimental to a woman's self-esteem something "goes wrong."  One forgotten invite, one accidental mean look, (even though you don't even remember seeing them), or one text without punctuation can make a girl think she is not accepted by you for the rest of eternity.

We have got to be aware of the feelings of the girls around us.  It doesn't matter how annoying they are to you! God's grace is to be missed by no one. Paul also tells us as Christians to "be completely humble and gentle," to "be patient, bearing with one another in love" because God, the "Father of all...is over all, through all, and in all." (Ephesians 4)

Being humble. Such a forgotten concept.  (The opposite of posting a "selfie" on Instagram -- UGH.)

It's "valu[ing] others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others" rather than doing everything out of "selfish ambition or vain conceit." (Philippians 2)

Leaving people out is born out of our own selfishness and pride -- which, of course, only comes from the evil one.  God calls us to place others before ourselves in order to truly live like His one and only Son.

Doing that one simple thing will lead to the elimination of vanity, more emphasis on others, and eyes will be open to those around us who don't have a "clique" and desperately need close relationships in their lives.

Impossible to do? I completely understand. You can't just turn a 180 and be nice to the "outsiders" of your clique.  Your clique-y friends won't like that.

You plant the seed.  God does the rest.